Working on Relationship System and Relationship Personality in DIP

The following self-forgiveness is extracted from my ITD course assignment #10. 



1. THE RELATIONSHIP-SYSTEM




Ideal Partner



Self-Forgiveness on ideas, perceptions, beliefs, definitions in relation to ‘Ideal Partner’:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to charge the word ideal partner with a positive value.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge the word ideal partner as positive/good.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word ideal partner through judging the word ideal partner as good/positive.





Appearance: Beautiful, looking like my mother and sister



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word appearance to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word appearance within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word appearance and the word ideal partner through defining the word appearance within the word partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word beautiful to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word beautiful within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word beautiful and the word ideal partner through defining the word beautiful within the word partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the words mother/sister to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the words mother/sister within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the words mother/sister and the word ideal partner through defining the words mother/sister within the word partner in separation of myself.





Figure: sexy



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word figure to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word figure within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word figure and the word ideal partner through defining the word figure within the word partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word sexy to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word sexy within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word sexy and the word ideal partner through defining the word sexy within the word partner in separation of myself.





Intellectuality: smart but not smarter than me



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word intellectuality to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word intellectuality within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word intellectuality and the word ideal partner through defining the word intellectuality within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the words smart but not smarter than me to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word smart but not smarter than me within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word smart and from the word ideal partner through defining smart but not smarter than me within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.





Character:tender, goodness,considerate, independent



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word character to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word character within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word character and from the word ideal partner through defining the word character within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word tender to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word tender within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word tender and from the word ideal partner through defining the word tender within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word goodness to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word goodness within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word goodness and from the word ideal partner through defining the word goodness within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word considerate to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word considerate within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word considerate and from the word ideal partner through defining the word considerate within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word independent to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word independent within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word independent and the word ideal partner through defining the word independent within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.





Work: having a job and earning money



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word work to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word work within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word work and form the word ideal partner through defining the word work within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the words having a job and earning money to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define having a job and earning money to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from having a job and earning money and from the word ideal partner through defining having a job and earning money within ideal partner in separation of myself.





Loyal/sticking to female’s moral code



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word loyal to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word loyal within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word loyal and from the word ideal partner through defining the word loyal within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect sticking to female’s moral code to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define sticking to female’s moral code within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from sticking to female’s moral code and from the word ideal partner through defining the words sticking to female’s moral code within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.





Popularity: popular yet low-key

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word popularity to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word popularity within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word popularity and from the word ideal partner through defining the word popularity within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect popular to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word popular to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word popular and from the word ideal partner through defining the word popular within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word low-key to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word low-key within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word low-key and from the word ideal partner through defining the word low-key within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.





Finance: no serious debt



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word finance to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word finance within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word finance and from the word ideal partner through defining the word finance within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word debt to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word debt in polarity to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word debt and from the word popularity through defining the word debt in polarity to the word ideal partner in separation of myself.





Household duties



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word household duties to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word household duties within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word household duties and from the word ideal partner through defining the word household duties within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.





Education: at least undergraduate



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word education to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word education within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word education and from the word ideal partner through defining the word education within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word undergraduate to the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word undergraduate within the word ideal partner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word undergraduate and from the word ideal partner through defining the word undergraduate within the word ideal partner in separation of myself.







Re-define ‘ideal partner’:

- Sounding of the words:

The word ideal sounds like the word idea and the word partner contains the word parent.

The ideal partner of the mind is an idea of perfection that is created based on mainly the parents – together with all other factors.



- Dictionary Definition:

Ideal: satisfying one's idea of what is perfect

Partner: either of two people who are married to one another or having a sexual relationship with one another



- New Definition:



The following definition is constructed from various points mentioned in the document relationships, sex and agreements – part 2.



ideal partner is an individual with whom we together walk this process of birthing self as Life from the Physical and establishing Heaven on Earth within the principle of Equality and Oneness as What is Best for All - where we establish an equal and one relationship/agreement with self in getting to know self through self-honesty, self-forgiveness and practical corrective application, and assist and support each other to do so while walking together within self-completion, self-love and self-acceptance within which we explore, discover, share, express and experience self-honesty, self-living, self-expression as who we are here as an in fact practical, physical, tangible, reality-experience of walking with each other, equal and one.







Ideal Relationship

Self-Forgiveness on ideas, perceptions, beliefs, definitions in relation to ‘Ideal Relationship’ as mapped out in the web above:



I am not like my father and my partner is like my mother

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect me not being like my father and my partner being like my mother to the word ideal relationship.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define me not being like my father and my partner being like my mother within the word ideal relationship.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word ideal relationship through defining me not being like my father and my partner being like my mother to the word ideal relationship – in separation of myself.



Different from my parents’ relationship

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect my parents’ relationship to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define my parents’ relationship in polarity to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from my parents’ relationship and ideal relationship through defining the word my parents’ relationship in polarity to ideal relationship – in separation of myself.





Intimacy



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word intimacy to the ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define intimacy within ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word intimacy and ideal relationship through defining intimacy within ideal relationship – in separation of myself.





Security



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect security to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define security within ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from security and from ideal relationship through defining security within ideal relationship – in separation of myself.



Care



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect care to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define care within ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from care and from ideal relationship through defining care within ideal relationship in separation of myself.





Attention



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect attention to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define attention within ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from attention and from ideal relationship through defining attention within ideal relationship – in separation of myself.





Love each other



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect loving each other to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define loving each other within ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from love and from ideal relationship through defining loving each other within ideal relationship in separation of myself.





Equality between partners:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect equality between partners to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define equality between partners within ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from equality between partners and from ideal relationship through defining equality between partners within ideal relationship in separation of myself.





Enough money



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect enough money to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define enough money within ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from enough money and from ideal relationship through defining enough money within ideal relationship – in separation of myself.





Great sex life



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect great sex life to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define great sex life within ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from great sex life and from ideal relationship through defining great sex life within ideal relationship in separation of myself.





Peace = no constant quarrel/fighting/domestic violence



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect peace to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define peace within ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from peace and from ideal relationship through defining peace within ideal relationship in separation of myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect constant quarrel/fighting/domestic violence to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define constant quarrel/fighting/domestic violence in polarity to ideal relationship.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from constant quarrel/fighting/domestic violence through defining constant quarrel/fighting/domestic violence in polarity to ideal relationship – in separation of myself.









Re-define ‘ideal relationship’:

- Sounding of the words:

The word ideal sounds like the word idea.

As for relationship I do not know yet. From the structure of the word, it is just relation+ship.

- Dictionary Definition:

Ideal: satisfying one's idea of whatis perfect; most suitable

Relationship: a situation in which two people spend time together or live together, and have romantic or sexual feelings for each other

- New Definition:

ideal relationship is an agreement within which two individuals as partners in life walk this process of birthing self as Life from the Physical and establishing Heaven on Earth within the principle of Equality and Oneness as What is Best for All – where we establish an equal and one relationship/agreement with self in getting to know self through self-honesty, self-forgiveness and practical corrective application, and assist and support each other to do so while walking together within self-completion, self-love and self-acceptance within which we explore, discover, share, express and experience self-honesty, self-living, self-expression as who we are here as an in fact practical, physical, tangible, reality-experience of walking with each other, equal and one.







Ideal Sex



Self-Forgiveness on ideas, perceptions, beliefs, definitions in relation to ‘Ideal Sex’ as mapped out in the web above:

Multiple beautiful sexy female partners：

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect multiple beautiful sexy female partners to ideal sex.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define multiple beautiful sexy female partners in ideal sex.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from female partner and from the word ideal sex through defining multiple beautiful sexy female partners within the word ideal sex – in separation of myself.



In nature with sunny weather

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect being in nature with sunny weather to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define being in nature with sunny weather within ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from nature, sunny weather and ideal sex through defining being in nature with sunny weather within ideal sex – in separation of myself.



Without condom

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect condom to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define condom in polarity to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from condom and from ideal sex through defining condom in polarity to ideal sex – in separation of myself.



Various sex positions

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect various sex positions to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define various sex positions within ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from various sex positions and from ideal sex through defining various sex positions within ideal sex.



Sexual sublimation

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect sexual sublimation to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define sexual sublimation within ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from sexual sublimation and from ideal sex through defining sexual sublimation within ideal sex – in separation of myself.



All partners are satisfied



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect all partners being satisfied to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define all partners being satisfied within ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from partners and from ideal sex through defining all partners being satisfied within ideal sex – in separation of myself.



Duration: till I can no longer do it

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the maximum long duration of sex to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the maximum long duration of sex within ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from maximum long duration of sex and ideal sex through defining maximum long duration of sex within ideal sex – in separation of myself.



Explosive orgasms



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect explosive orgasms to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define explosive orgasms within ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from explosive orgasms and from ideal sex through defining explosive orgasms within ideal sex – in separation of myself.



Experience Intimacy like melting together



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the experience of intimacy like melting together to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the experience of intimacy like melting together to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself intimacy and from ideal sex through defining the experience of intimacy like melting together within ideal sex – in separation of myself.



Free from concerns



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect free from concerns to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define free from concerns within ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from concerns and from ideal sex through defining free from concerns within ideal sex – in separation of myself.



Bright place



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect bright place to ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define bright place within ideal sex.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from bright place and from ideal sex through defining bright place within ideal sex – in separation of myself.







Re-define ‘ideal sex’:

- Sounding of the words:

The word ideal sounds like the word idea.

In Veno’s structural resonance document, it is explained that the word sex as per consciousness systems defined sound resonance, exists as follows:

S = I am sending/transferring

E = myself (that is of consciousness systems) energetically/systematically

X = into you, where we both together will crucify ourselves and each other with the integration of each other as consciousness systems.



- Dictionary Definition:

Ideal: satisfying one's idea of what is perfect

Sex: activities that lead to and include sexual intercourse



- New Definition:

From ITD course lesson 7 – the History of Mankind part 6, sex is the key to self-expression.



I would redefine ideal sex as an expression of who I am as life where I am constant – without energy fluctuation, discovering and exploring myself through self-direction and self-movement within, as and through the physical activity of sex with another being.





2. THE RELATIONSHIP-PERSONALITY



Trait 1: open

Trait 2: interesting

Trait 3: talkative

Trait 4: impressive

Trait 5: attentive

Trait 6: intelligent

Trait 7 honest

Trait 8: committed

Trait 9: strong

Trait 10: sexy

Trait 11: secure

Trait 12: trustworthy



Self-Forgiveness Application



open

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 1:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being open instead of being actually open.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 1 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold myself back from being open through fear of being judged or harmed if I dare to be open.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect being judged or harmed to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive myself to be autistic.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself as being autistic.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold onto the self-perception and self-definition of/as being autistic.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 1 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to bottle everything up within me.

I forgive myself for a ccepting and allowing myself to hide the secrets of who I am.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that who I am is a secret.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I am actually able to hide myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that if I hide myself within me then nobody else will know who I am as what I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become.

I forgive myself for a ccepting and allowing myself to hide the self-dishonesties that I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be fear to be judged/laughed at/ridiculed/harmed if I dare to share myself openly.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect being judged/laughed at/ridiculed/harmed to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear the truth of me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect facing the truth of me to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the truth of me to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.





interesting

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 2:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being interesting.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 2 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe myself to be a pretty boring person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold onto this self-perception/self-belief about myself as being a boring person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that I do not have anything interesting to share.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself in opposition to being interesting.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the trait of being interesting. (It is not that I have to become interesting deliberately to take on another personality of/as defining myself as being an interesting person.)

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to prevent myself from sharing myself because I have believed that I am a boring person and that people would not be interested in hearing me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to suppress myself through the perception/idea/belief that I am a boring person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be a boring person because I do not have specific hobbies which everyone is supposed to have according to society standard.





Self-Forgiveness on Trait 2 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself for being ‘boring’ as I have perceived myself to be.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge boring as being bad.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word boring through judging the word boring as bad.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to be judged by others for being perceived to be bored.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect being judged by others for being perceived to be bored to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing my own fear.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to project self-judgment onto others.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear not being accepted by others.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect not being accepted by others to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to project lack of self-acceptance onto others.





talkative

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 3:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being talkative.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 3 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive myself to be an uncommunicative person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to regard being talkative not my type of thing.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to prevent myself from being talkative through judging talking too much as being shallow.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive that not talking much make me appear to be profound.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to exist within the perception/idea/believe that I have communication dysfunction and that I am not able to communicate effectively.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from effective communication.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing effective communication as who I am.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to prevent myself from talking due to fear that my words will have consequences.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the consequences that go with my words to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that by not speaking I am preventing consequences.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that the more I talk the more consequences I will bring to myself and to others and thus that I’d better shut up.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive it to be wrong to speak.

I forgive myself for acceping and allowing myself to judge speaking as wrong.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from speaking through judging speaking as wrong.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 3 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being talkative to hide the depression within me due to ineffective communication.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge depression as bad.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from depression through judging depression as bad.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear that others may see me being depressed.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect being seen depressed to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself ot fear my own fear.





impressive

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 4:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being impressive.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 4 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe myself to be a low-key person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself as a low-key person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to place value and worth within being a low-key person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that being a low-key person is a good trait.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge being a low-key person to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word low-ley through judging being low-key to be good.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold myself back from speaking and expressing through sticking to my self-definition as a low-key person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to have created myself as being unnoticed through deliberately making myself unnoticed.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to be noticed as then I will be exposed to criticism, judgment and danger.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect being noticed to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect being noticed to being exposed to criticism, judgment and danger.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 4 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel shitty about myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel valueless and worthless.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to impress others so that I can believe that I am worthy.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to impress others so that I can get accepted.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to place value in being impressive.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from value and worth through defining value and worth within being impressive.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that if I impressed someone who I perceive/believe to be superior then I become more valuable and worthy.





attentive

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 5:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being attentive.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 5 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive being attentive as just another personality of the mind which I require to disregard.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that I am not supposed to accept being attentive as me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive to be self-dishonest to be attentive as that would mean to take on a personality of the mind.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing being attentive as who I am – not taking on another personality but live as who I am within consideration of myself and others as myself within the context of what is best for all.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from being attentive through perceiving/believing that being attentive can only be from the personality of the mind.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 5 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hide the fact that I have transformed myself into caring/taking into consideration of anyone or anything.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hide the fact that I have transformed myself into not considering others equal and one as myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hide the fact that I have not given attention to myself and others as myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hide it so that I do not face myself and stop it and change.





intelligent

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 6:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being intelligent.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 6 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see myself as being stupid.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself as being stupid.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that if I do not live being intelligent I must become stupid.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to exist in the polarity of stupid/intelligent.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate in the polarity game of stupid/intelligent.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to transform myself into stupidity in order to counteract the personality of being intelligent.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing mmyself to perceive/believe that I am able to stop the personality of being intelligent through going to the polar opposite of being stupid.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realize that going into the polar opposite of a personality trait is essentially supporting the same construct – just a flip of the coin.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I must choose between intelligent and stupid.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be defined by the polarity pair intelligent/stupid.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 6 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being intelligent to hide the stupidity that I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hide the self-judgment of judging myself as being stupid.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge stupid as bad.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word stupidity through judging it as bad.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to project my own judgment onto others.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear others judge me being stupid.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect others judging me as being stupid to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.





honest

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 7:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being honest.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 7 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself according to and as self-deception.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold onto the self-definition of being deceptive.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to justify the self-definition of being deceptive.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from being self-honest through holding onto and justifying self-deceptions.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 7 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being honest so that I can hide the deceptions that exist within me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear to face the self-deceptions that I have accepted and allowed.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect facing self-deceptions to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being honest so that I can be seen as an honest person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself through other people’s eyes.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to seek acceptance from others through presenting myself as something that is acceptable according to my imagination of what they would like to see me to be.





committed

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 8:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being committed.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 8 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that I am lacking self-commitment.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from self-commitment through holding onto this perception/idea/belief that I am not self-committed and that I cannot be self-committed.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to have abdicated the self-commitment that I have already developed and have transformed myself into this perception/idea/belief that I cannot be self-committed.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that if I abdicated a part of myself I can no longer accept it as myself again.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that I have lost self-commitment.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I am able to lose self-commitment.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not realize that if I am able to lose self-commitment it simply is not real – if I am self-commitment it is here as who I am and cannot be lost.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realize that self-commitment is here as who I am in every moment of every breath.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 8 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being committed in order to hide that I am not self-committed.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge lack of self-commitment as bad.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear others see me as not being committed and judge me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect being seen as not committed to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.





Strong

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 9:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being strong.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 9 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe myself to be weak.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself as being weak.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from strength that is who I am.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe myself to be weak because I do not know how to handle certain situations effectively.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to stand up within and as me and direct and move myself effectively.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to exist in the polarity of strong/weak – presenting myself to be strong while actually existing as weakness instead of actually living the strength that is who I am in fact within and without.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 9 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being strong so that I can hide the inner weakness within me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge weakness as bad and negative.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see weakness as shameful and thus wanting to hide it.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be ashamed of myself for being weak.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to project my own judgment onto others and thus fearing others to judge my weakness.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect my weakness being seen by others to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.





sexy

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 10:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being sexy.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 10 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive myself to be sexually unattractive because I have never entered into a relationship.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe there is something wrong with me that I am not sexually attractive.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that I require to become sexy so that I can lure females into a relationship.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself for not being charming enough.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to desire to be liked by others through presenting myself as being charming and sexy because I do not like myself.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 10 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being sexy and charming so that I can hide the fact I have not accepted myself and being confident as myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from self-acceptance and self-confidence.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being sexy and charming so that I can be accepted by others and feel confident which is not self-confidence.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realize that if I am self-confident I do not need to present myself to be something in order to be accepted by others.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hide the point that I have not stood as self-acceptance and self-confidence so that I do not face and deal with these points.





secure

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 11:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being secure.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 11 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive myself to be an insecure person.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to seek security outside of me separate ffrom me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that I am able to find security outside of me separate from me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that everything is a potential danger to me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to seek security constantly.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to give myself security.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to use insecurity as a motivation to move.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that if I am secure I am not able to move/motivate myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to never be satisfied with myself – perceiving/believing whatever I do is just a fuck-up and thus seeking acceptance and security outside of me constantly and continuously.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 11 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hide the insecurity that I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not want to face the insecurity within me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that I am able to hide the insecurity within me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to escape from facing myself as insecurity through hiding from myself.





trustworthy

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 12:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being trustworthy.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 12 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to exist within and as the self-definition of/as untrustworthy.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I can no longer be trustworthy because I betrayed myself before.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate in the thought “you fucked up once - you do not get another chance and you don’t deserve it.”

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that self-betrayal has left a scar that cannot be healed and thus I cannot become trustworthy again.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I do not deserve to be trustworthy.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to be trustworthy.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be untrustworthy because I have made promises that I did not keep – thus I cannot trust my own words.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to make promises that I cannot keep and thus compromising self-trust.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from self-trust.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 12 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present being trustworthy so that I can hide the self-betrayal that I have accepted and allowed.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hide the evil that I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become which are reflected within my thoughts, words and deeds.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge the evil that I have become and try to hide it through presenting myself to be trustworthy when I know I do not even trust myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hide the self-betrayal that exist within me so that I can continue to exist and justify the self-betrayal that I have become instead of investigating, stopping, standing up from within it and change/transform myself to honour myself and become trustworthy as life.





Self-Corrective Statements



Write self-corrective statements for each trait/characteristic of your Relationship-Personality:





Trait 1 (open)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that it is fear of judgment and being harmed and the perception, idea and belief that I am autistic that is holding me back from being open.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold myself back out of fear of judgment and being harmed.

I do not accept and allow myself to continue to exist as the perception/idea/belief about myself as being autistic to hold me back from living openness.

I accept and allow myself to live as openness as who I am - the practical meaning of which I still require to explore, investigate and discover.



I accept and realize that the reason I present myself as being open is to hide the secrets, self-dishonesties and the truth of who I am so that I do not face myself, stop, stand up and change myself.

I do not accept myself to hide secrets/self-dishonesties/the truth of who I am from myself.

I accept and allow myself to be intimate with and be open to myself so that I do not hide and escape from myself, instead I allow myself to see the truth of me, the self-dishonesties that I have accepted and allowed.

I accept and allow myself to face myself, stop, stand up and change/transform myself through being open to myself.



Practical Script:

When I attempt to present myself as being open, I stop and breathe and simply share what is here in the moment and live as openness as who I am consistently no matter where I am with whom I am.





Trait 2(interesting)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that the reason I present myself as being interesting is that I have perceived/believed/defined myself to be a boring person and has suppressed myself very much and within that attempting to present myself as the opposite of who I am.

I do not accept and allow myself to continue to live the perception/idea/belief about myself as a boring person.

I do not accept and allow myself to suppress myself through holding onto the perception/idea/belief that I am a boring person.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold myself back from expressing myself through believing that people would not be interested in hearing me.

I do not accept and allow myself to present myself as the opposite of who I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become.

I do not accept and allow myself to go into the polar opposite of boring which is interesting to just take on another personality trait.

I do not accept and allow myself to play the polarity game flipping the coin.

I accept and allow myself to diffuse/remove the perception/idea/belief that I have created about myself so that I can live free from such limitations.



I accept and realize that I am presenting myself as being interesting to hide my self-definition as a boring person and that the reason I hide it is that I have judged it as being bad/negative and projected this judgement onto others and also an indication that I have not accepted myself.

I do not accept and allow myself to present myself as an interesting to hide my perception that I am a boring person.

I do not accept and allow myself to judge myself for being a boring person.

I do not accept and allow myself to project my self-judgment onto others.

I accept and allow myself to live as self-acceptance – the practical meaning of which I still require to investigate, explore and discover.



Practical Script:

When I attempt to present myself as being interesting, I stop and breathe and express myself here in the moment – without attempt to present myself as something – either being interesting or being boring. When I hold myself back from expressing myself through believing that I am a boring person and that people would not be interested in what I say, I stop and breathe and express and share myself here in the moment of what I have to say.





Trait 3(talkative)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that the reason I present myself as being talkative is to hide my self-definition as an uncommunicative person and the belief that I have communication dysfunctions which prevent me from being communicative and the resulting depressions.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold myself back from expressing and speaking through holding onto my self-definition as an uncommunicative person.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold onto the belief that I have communication dysfunctions and that I am not able to communicate effectively.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold myself back from speaking through fear that my words may bring about consequences that I cannot the belief that by not speaking I am able to prevent those consequences.

I accept and allow myself to stop the judgments that I have imposed on speaking words.

I do not accept and allow myself to take on the opposite personality of being talkative which is just a flip of the polarity coin supporting the same construct.

I do not accept and allow myself to suppress myself and get depressed through holding onto the perception/idea/belief that I am an uncommunicative person.

I accept and allow myself to diffuse and remove the polarity definitions of being uncommunicative and talkative so that I can live free from such limitations and express myself here in the moment as who I am.



Practical Script:

When I present myself as being talkative or going to suppressions and depressions through believing myself to be uncommunicative, I stop and breathe and simply express myself here in the moment in breath as who I am – not being defined or limited by being uncommunicative or being talkative.





Trait 4(impressive)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that the reason I present myself to be impressive is because I have lived the polar opposite self-definition as an unnoticed low-key person and that I hold onto this personality trait through fear that I may be exposed to criticism, judgment and danger if I am noticed. I accept and realize that I am hiding the valuelessness and worthlessness that I have accepted and allowed to be who I am and attempt to impress others in order to gain value and worth.



I accept and allow myself to remove the self-definition as being an unnoticed low-key person.

I accept and allow myself to stop and remove the fear that I may be exposed to criticism, judgment and danger if I am noticed.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold onto the self-definition that I am an unnoticed low-key person.

I do not accept and allow myself to present myself as being impressive to hide the valuelessness and worthlessness that I experience within myself.

I do not accept and allow myself to attempt to gain value and worth through impressing others.

I do not accept and allow myself to place value and worth outside of me separate from me.

I accept and allow value and worth as who I am – the practical meaning of which I still require to investigate, explore and discover.

I do not accept and allow myself to play the polarity game of being impressive and being an unnoticed low-key person.

I accept and allow myself to remove both definitions of being impressive and being unnoticed low-key which support and feed each other so that I can live free from such limitations/definitions.



Practical Script:

When I present myself as being impressive or suppress myself and hold myself back through holding onto the perception/idea/belief about myself as an unnoticed low-key person, I stop and breathe and simply speak, express, direct and move myself here in the moment in breath as who I am – not being defined or limited by being unnoticed low-key or being impressive – not presenting myself as something but expressing myself naturally as who I am in the moment.





Trait 5(attentive)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that the reason I hold myself back from expressing attentive as who I am is that I have defined being attentive merely being a personality of the mind and that to be attentive is self-dishonest without realizing being attentive can be lived as who I am from the perspective of considering myself and others as myself within the context of what is best for all. I accept and realize that I present myself as being attentive in order to hide the fact that I have transformed myself into considering nobody or nothing and that I have not given attention to myself and others as myself.



I do not accept and allow myself to hold myself back from expressing attentive as who I am through regarding it merely a personality of the mind and if lived will be self-dishonest.

I accept and allow attentive as who I am from the perspective of considering myself and others as myself within the context of what is best for all.

I do not accept and allow myself to present myself as being attentive in order to hide that I care/consider no one or nothing.

I do not accept and allow myself to present myself as being attentive in order to hide that I have not give attention to myself and others as myself.

I accept and allow myself to consider myself and others as myself in the context of what is best for all.

I accept and allow myself to give attention to myself and others as myself.



Practical Script:

When a situation presents itself in my world, I breathe, stop being ego-centric and give attention and consider all the people within it in the context of what is best for all.





Trait 6(intelligent)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that the reason I present myself as being intelligent is that I have defined myself as being stupid and try to hide this self-definition through going into its polar opposite – intelligent.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold onto the self-definition of being stupid.

I do not accept and allow myself to justify stupidity.

I do not accept and allow myself to judge the stupidity that I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become.

I accept and allow myself to remove the self-definition of being stupid.

I do not accept and allow myself to hide my self-definition of being stupid through presenting myself as its polar opposite as being intelligent.

I do not accept and allow myself to play the polarity game of being stupid and intelligent which support and feed each other.

I accept and allow myself to diffuse and remove both definitions of being stupid and intelligent so that I can live free from such polarity constructs.



Practical Script:

When I attempt to present myself as being intelligent, I stop and breathe and express myself here in the moment as who I am. I use such situations as opportunities to see and investigate where I am still holding onto the polar opposite self-definition of being stupid and remove such definitions through self-forgiveness.





Trait 7(honest)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that what is holding me back from being self-honest is the self-deceptive nature that I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become and my justification of it. I accept and allow myself to realize that I present myself to be honest so that I can hide the self-deceptions that exist within me and be accepted by others.



I accept and allow myself to remove the self-deceptions that I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become.

I do not accept and allow myself to justify my self-deceptions.

I do not accept and allow myself to justify my self-deceptive nature that I have accepted and allowed.

I do not accept and allow myself to present myself to be honest to hide the self-deceptions that exist within me.

I do not accept and allow myself to present myself as being honest so that I can be accepted by others.

I do not accept and allow myself to play the polarity game of honest/deceptive.

I accept and allow myself to live as self-honesty and self-acceptance as who I am – the practical meaning of which I still require to investigate, explore and discover.



Practical Script:

When I attempt to present myself as being honest, I stop and breathe and express myself here in the moment as who I am within self-honesty. I use such situations as opportunities to see and investigate where I am still existing in self-deception and remove them through self-forgiveness.





Trait 8(committed)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that I present myself as being committed in order to hide my self-definition that I lack self-commitment and that I abdicated self-commitment before and I have lost it and I can no longer be it. I accept and realize that I hide it because I have judged it and I do not want others to see it.

I do not accept and allow myself to hide my self-definition that I lack self-commitment through presenting myself as being committed instead of actually being self-committed.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold onto the perception/idea/belief that I have lost self-commitment and that I can no longer be self-committed.

I accept and allow myself to live self-commitment as who I am – the practical meaning of which I still need to investigate, explore and discover.

I do not accept and allow myself to judge what I have become.

I accept and allow myself to see what I have become, where I require to give direction and correct myself.



Practical Script:

When I see where I am not committed, I give it attention and investigate the cause of it and see what I can practically do or direct and walk the practical correction.





Strong

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 9:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being strong.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 9 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe myself to be weak.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself as being weak.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from strength that is who I am.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe myself to be weak because I do not know how to handle certain situations effectively.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to stand up within and as me and direct and move myself effectively.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to exist in the polarity of strong/weak – presenting myself to be strong while actually existing as weakness instead of actually living the strength that is who I am in fact within and without.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 9 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being strong so that I can hide the inner weakness within me.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge weakness as bad and negative.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to see weakness as shameful and thus wanting to hide it.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be ashamed of myself for being weak.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to project my own judgment onto others and thus fearing others to judge my weakness.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect my weakness being seen by others to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.



Trait 9(Strong)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that I present myself as being strong in order to hide the weakness within me so that I do not get judged by others.

I do not accept and allow myself to hide inner weakness through presenting myself as being strong.

I accept and allow myself to accept and face the inner weakness that I have accepted and allowed .

I accept and allow strength as who I am in fact within and without.

I accept and allow myself to remove the perception/idea/belief about myself as being weak and its polar opposite presentation as being strong.

I do not accept and allow myself to play the polarity game of strong/weak which support and feed each other.

I accept and allow myself to remove the experience of helplessness and powerlessness in handling situations that I feel not knowing what to do and investigate what I can practically do to assist and support myself in such situations.

I do not accept and allow myself to judge my inner weakness.

I do not accept and allow myself to fear that others may judge my weakness.



Practical Script:

When I attempt to present myself as being strong, I stop and breathe and express myself naturally here in the moment as who I am. I use such situations as opportunities to see and investigate where I am still holding onto the polar opposite self-definition of being weak and remove such definitions through self-forgiveness so that I can live strength as who I am in fact within and without.



sexy

Self-Forgiveness for presenting self as Trait 10:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being sexy.

Self-Forgiveness on Trait 10 – Answer to question A:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive myself to be sexually unattractive because I have never entered into a relationship.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe there is something wrong with me that I am not sexually attractive.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that I require to become sexy so that I can lure females into a relationship.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself for not being charming enough.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to desire to be liked by others through presenting myself as being charming and sexy because I do not like myself.



Self-Forgiveness on Trait 10 – Answer to question B:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being sexy and charming so that I can hide the fact I have not accepted myself and being confident as myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from self-acceptance and self-confidence.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to present myself as being sexy and charming so that I can be accepted by others and feel confident which is not self-confidence.

I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realize that if I am self-confident I do not need to present myself to be something in order to be accepted by others.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hide the point that I have not stood as self-acceptance and self-confidence so that I do not face and deal with these points.





Trait 10(sexy)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that I present myself being sexy in order to hide the perception/idea/belief about myself as being unattractive/not charming enough/lack of self-confidence and self-acceptance.

I do not accept and allow myself to hide the perception/idea/belief about myself as being unattractive/not charming enough/lack of self-confidence and self-acceptance through presenting myself as being sexy.

I accept and allow myself to diffuse and remove such perceptions and ideas about myself as being unattractive/not charming enough.

I do not accept and allow myself to play the polarity game of being sexy/unattractive or not charming enough which support and feed each other.

I do not accept and allow myself to gain acceptance from others through presenting myself as being sexy.

I accept and allow myself to develop self-confidence and self-acceptance as who I am.



Practical Script:

When I attempt to present myself as being sexy in the presence of females, I stop and breathe and express myself as I communicate with males equal and one here in the moment as who I am. I use such situations as opportunities to see and investigate where I am still holding onto the polar opposite self-definition of being uncharming/unattractive and see where I am not accepting myself and thus apply self-forgiveness and practical corrections.





Trait 11(secure)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that I present myself as being secure is to hide the insecurity that exist within me and that I have defined myself as an insecure person and this self-definition is holding me back from living security as who I am. I accept and realize that I use insecurity as a means to motivate and move myself which is also a reason I hold onto this self-definition.

I do not accept and allow myself ot hide the insecurity within me through presenting myself as being secure.

I do not accept and allow myself to suppress the insecurity within me.

I accept and allow myself to see and investigate the insecurity within me.

I accept and allow myself to see ‘problems’ as opportunities to assist and support myself and transform ‘problems’ into gifts.

I accept and allow myself to investigate how I am come to be such an insecure person – the cause, origin of it so that I can remove such causes and live free such a definition.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold onto my self-definition as an insecure person.

I do not accept myself to hold myself back from living security as who I am.

I do not accept and allow myself to seek security outside of me separate from me.

I do not accept and allow myself to justify this self-definition of being an insecure person through using insecurity as a means to motivate and move myself.

I accept and allow security as who I am and self-move and self-motivate myself – not being motivated by insecurity.



Practical Script:

When I attempt to present myself as being secure to others, I stop and breathe and express myself here in the moment as who I am. I use such situations as opportunities to see and investigate where I am still holding onto the polar opposite self-definition of being insecure and apply self-forgiveness accordingly to remove such a definition and transform such a situation into a gift.





Trait 8(trustworthy)

Realisations to be lived:

I accept and realize that I what is holding me back from living trustworthy is my perception/idea/belief about myself as untrustworthy due to self-betrayal that I did to myself before and the belief I can no longer be trustworthy again and that I do not deserve to be trustworthy. I accept and realize that I am hiding the self-betrayal that I accepted and allowed through presenting myself as the opposite as trustworthy.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold myself back from living trustworthy as who I am.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold onto the self-definition that I am not trustworthy.

I do not accept and allow myself to hold onto the self-betrayal that I did to myself and use it as a justification to remain as untrustworthy.

I accept and allow myself to remove the idea that I do not deserve to be trustworthy.

I accept and allow myself to remove the belief that I can no longer be trustworthy again.

I accept and allow myself to be careful in making promises – do not make promises that I know I cannot keep which fucks up my self-trust.

I do not accept and allow myself to hide the self-betrayal that I accepted and allowed.

I do not accept and allow myself to continue to exist as and justify the self-betrayal that I have become instead of investigating, stopping, standing up from within it and change/transform myself to honour myself and become trustworthy as life.

I accept and allow myself to see and investigate what I have done to myself and what I can do practically to correct myself.

I accept and allow myself to live self-trust within self-honesty as who I am here in every moment of breath.



Practical Script:

When I attempt to present myself as being trustworthy to others, I stop and breathe. I use such a situation as an opportunity to see and investigate where I am not trusting myself. Within that stop, stand up from within it and change/transform myself to honour myself and become trustworthy as life.



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Working on the Jealousy System in DIP

The following is extracted from my 8th assignment of the Introduction to Desteni Course within the Desteni I Process( http://desteniiprocess.com/ ) , where I worked on the Jealousy system.





Writing:




Recently we have been having quite some group discussions on QQ(a software that is like skype but mainly used by people in China Mainland). A person L who recently started to participate actively in Desteni Chinese seemed to have done a lot of reading on various materials and she has been answering people’s questions and directing the situation very effectively. After observing this person’s expressions and what she did, I had a thought of ‘Her contribution is more than me – the boss’(The actual thought is in Chinese“功高盖主”and here I am translating it into English for understanding). I compared myself with her and felt inferior and perceived that my thunder has been stolen. I experienced jealousy towards her for her expression. I noticed this point and applied self-forgiveness on it.



I this assignment I am working with the system of jealousy.







The various components I will be working with:



Thought: Her contribution is more than me – the boss.



Emotions and Feelings: Emotion: sadness



Words: Jealousy



Pictures: the picture is using a fist to beat a person’s head down onto the electric stove.



Memories: My father’s jealousy







The Thoughts Work-Sheet



Her contribution is more than me – the boss.





Self-Forgiveness



I forgive for accepting and allowing myself to participate in the thought ‘her contribution is more than me – the superior’ when I saw the person L was very effective in answering people’s questions in the Desteni QQ group.





I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the thought ‘her contribution is more than me – the superior’ to seeing the person L being very effective in answering people’s questions.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing seeing the person L being very effective in answering people’s questions to exist as a triggering point within me, triggering the thought ‘her contribution is more than me – the superior’.





I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to compare myself with L in the ability to answer people’s questions.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to compare myself with L in knowledge and understanding.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate in comparison and competition with L.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from L through participation in comparison and competition.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel inferior to L through my participation in comparison and competition.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that inferiority actually exists.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that superiority actually exists.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself in comparison to others as ‘more than’ or ‘less than’ them.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself as less than in comparison to L in knowledge and understanding of materials.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself as less than in comparison to L in answering people’s questions.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself as less than in comparison to L in information processing skills and reading abilities.



I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe myself to be superior.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold onto the make-belief that I am superior.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to regard L as my subordinate and thus ‘supposedly’ inferior.



I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to see/treat L as my equal.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from l through regarding L as my subordinate and me as the ‘boss’.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to create an idea of me being the boss and L as my subordinate.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe myself to be the boss and that my authority should not be challenged or threatened by my ‘subordinate’.



I forgive myself to perceive/believe that my status as a boss has been threatened because the subordinate is more than me the boss, instead of realizing that the ‘boss’ status is not real in the first place – it is just an idea within my mind which I used to hide the inferiority that exist within me.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to use the boss belief of myself to hide/cover up the inferiority that exists within me.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate and exist within the polarity design of inferiority and superiority.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel/perceive/believe that my status of superiority has been threatened by L, instead of realizing that the belief of me being superior is not real in the first place.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold onto the self-definition of being superior.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing superiority to exist within and as me.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to use knowledge and information to create the belief of superiority/inferiority.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that if I know more than others then I am superior.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel inferior to a person when that person knows something that I do not know yet.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to use/abuse/manipulate knowledge and information to hold onto my self-belief of being superior.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to always want to win within my mind.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing to think that I know this knowledge that you do not know so I am still better than you – I am still superior to you.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to manipulate myself to believe that I am still superior to keep my superiority intact.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear losing the believed superior status that I have established within my mind.



I forgive myself to connect losing superiority to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.



I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realize that the superiority status that I have established within my mind is not real and is just an idea/belief about myself.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold onto the self-definition of being superior.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive that my thunder has been stolen by L because she is getting more attention than me in the group.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to desire to get other people’s attentions because I have not given myself attention.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to compare myself with L in how much attention is given to us.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to desire that people focus more on me than on L.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel threatened when I see L gets more attention from others.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that I cannot tolerate another person being more than me.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold onto the belief that the ‘subordinate’ should not be better than the ‘boss’.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to have the desire to contain the person always less than me so that I can always be more than.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to desire to be always more than others.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to always want to win over others.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be jealous of L because I perceive/believe that L is more than me.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself as less than/more than, inferior/superior through comparison and competition with others.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to believe that the self-judgments as more than/less than, inferior/superior is real.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel threatened by beings who I see as superior to me.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to use nastiness, spite and gossip to exalt myself as ego above the other being within my mind – so that I can feel like I have won and other being has lost.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to try and destroy whoever I am jealous about – through nastiness, spite and gossip.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate in the thought everybody falls as a means to make myself feel that I have won within my mind.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to desire to put the being who I perceive to be more than me down so that I do not experience inferiority.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to abdicate self-responsibility through believing that it is the person outside me who I perceive to be superior to me that is causing me to be inferior – instead of realizing that I am responsible for what I experience within me – the inferiority/superiority.



I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to realize that within jealousy lies an opportunity for me to assist and support myself in learning from the person I am jealous about – so that I equalize myself with this being.





Self-Corrective Statements:



I accept and realize that comparison and competitions is of the mind, supporting the polarity game of superiority/inferiority, win/lose and does not support who I really am as Life.



I do not accept and allow myself to participate in comparison and competition of the mind.



I do not accept and allow myself to participate in the polarity game of superiority/inferiority, win/lose of the mind through participation in comparison/competition.



I do not accept and allow myself to support my mind of the polarity game.



I support who I really am as LIFE here in breath.





I accept and realize that superiority/inferiority is not real – they are games played within my mind which I believed to be real. I accept and realize that the idea of me being the boss the superior and L being my subordinate the inferior is not real – it is just an idea within my mind and that it is not actually supporting anyone.



I do not accept and allow myself to believe that superiority/inferiority is real.



I do not accept and allow myself to participate in the mind game of superiority/inferiority.



I do not accept and allow myself to hold onto the perception/idea/belief of me being the boss/superior and L being my subordinate/inferior.



I do not accept and allow myself to support the illusion of myself of my mind as perceptions/ideas/beliefs that I have created as myself which I have believed to be who I am.





I do not accept and allow myself to judge myself or others as less than/more than, superior/inferior through my participation in comparison/competition.



I do not accept and allow myself to judge others as that would be accepting and allowing myself to judge myself.





I accept and realize that whenever anything nasty comes up about another person, it is because I am jealous. I accept and realize that nastiness, spite and gossip are indicators of jealousy.



I accept and allow myself to investigate within myself the point of jealousy when nastiness, spite and gossip come up about another person.



I do not accept and allow myself to feed nastiness, spite and gossip through participation.



I do not accept and allow myself to feed the desire to win within my mind.



I do not accept and allow myself to feed the desire to destroy others, to bring them down because I am jealous of them.





I accept and realize that jealousy furthers the enslavement of separation.



I do not accept and allow myself to participate in jealousy.



I do not accept and allow myself to participate in the enslavement of separation through participation in jealousy.





I accept and realize that within jealousy lies an opportunity for me to assist and support myself in learning from the person I am jealous about – so that I equalize myself with this being.



I accept and allow myself to assist and support myself in learning from the person I am jealous about.



I accept and allow myself to equalize myself with the person I am jealous about.



I accept and allow myself to equalize myself with the person L in information processing ability, reading ability, understanding, realizations, ability of answering questions effectively.





Rewriting the script:



When I see L being effective in answering people’s questions in Desteni QQ group, I do not accept myself to participate in the thought ‘Her contribution is more than me the boss’. I stop. I breathe. I do not accept myself to go into comparison and competition or create the self-judgment of inferiority, which is not real. Instead, I assist and support myself to equalize myself with the being in the ability of information processing ability, reading ability, understanding, realizations, ability of answering questions effectively. I stand one and equal with the being L as myself.







The Emotion or Feeling Work-Sheet



Emtion: Sadness



Self-Forgiveness:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate in the emotion of sadness.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing the emotion of sadness to exist within and as me.





I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate in the emotion of disappointment.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing the emotion of disappointment to exist within and as me.





I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the emotion of sadness as disappointment to the thought ‘her contribution is more than me-the boss’.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel sad and disappointed when I perceive that L has surpassed me.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel sad and disappointed because I believe that I have lost my forerunner position.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel sad and disappointed because I believe that I have been left behind by somebody who joined in later than me.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear being left behind.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect being left behind to fear and thus I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to fear my own fear.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive/believe that I have lost my position as a forerunner.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive this process as running a race.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself according to my position in the process.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself as being superior according to my position in the process.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel sad and disappointed because of the perceived ‘loss’.





Self-Corrective Statements:





I accept and realize that each one is in their individual process and that my position in the process does not define who I am. And that this process is not like running a race at all – who is the first runner, who runs better, who runs faster, who is ahead, who is behind etc.



I do not accept and allow myself to compare myself with others in where we are currently in our process.



I do not accept and allow myself to define myself according to my position in the process.



I do not accept and allow myself to define others according to their position in their process.



I do not accept and allow myself to use my position to support my ego superiority.



I do not accept and allow myself to participate in comparison, competition like running a race in this process.



I do not accept and allow myself to participate in the emotion of sadness and disappointment based on illusions as ideas of running ahead or being left behind within the ‘race’.



I do not accept and allow myself to participate in the ‘race’ in this process.



I accept and allow myself to walk this process as who I am equal and one with others walking this process together with me – assisting and supporting each other as who we really are as LIFE.





I accept and realize that I ideas and values that I have attached to forerunner in the process is not real and that it does not support me or anyone.



I do not accept and allow myself to hold onto the ideas and values that I have attached to forerunner.



I accept and allow myself to live here without the ideas and values attached to definitions separate from me here.





I accept and realize that the emotion of sadness and disappointment is based on the idea that I have apparently lost my position in the process and that it is not real.



I do not accept and allow myself to participate in the emotional experience off sadness and disappointment.



I do not accept and allow myself to be directed by an idea that I have apparently lost my position in the process because that idea is not real in the first place.



I accept and allow myself to drop the values ideas that I have attached to my position in the process.





Rewrite-scripture:



When the thought ‘Her contribution is more than me the boss’ comes up, I stop and breathe. I stop the emotional experience of sadness and disappointment. I accept the being as one and equal as me - assisting and supporting each other as who we really are as LIFE. I assist and support myself and others to equalize each other, learn from each other – not to abuse my position to feed my ego.





The Words Work-Sheet



Word-Web: Central word: Jealousy Connected word: Superior, inferior, Nasty, spitefulness, Comparison/competition, intolerable, Disappointment, Revenge, Best/Top, judgment, win, lose



Self-Forgiveness



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to charge the word jealousy with a negative value.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge the word jealousy as bad/wrong/negative.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word jealousy through judging the word jealousy as bad/wrong/negative.







Superior:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word jealousy to the word superior.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word superior in polarity to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word superior and the word jealousy through defining the word superior in polarity to the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Inferior:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word inferior to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word inferior within the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word inferior and from the word jealousy through defining the word inferior within the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Nasty:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word nasty to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word nasty within the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word nasty and from the word jealousy through defining the word nasty within the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Spitefulness:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word spitefulness to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word spitefulness within the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word spitefulness and from the word jealousy through defining the word spitefulness within the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Comparison/competition:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the words comparison/competition to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the words comparison/competition within the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the words comparison, competition, and jealousy through defining the word comparison and competition within the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Intolerable:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word intolerable to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word intolerable within the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word intolerable and from the word jealousy through defining the word intolerable within the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Disappointment:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word disappointment to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word disappointment within the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word disappointment and from jealousy through defining disappointment within the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Revenge:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word revenge to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word revenge within the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word revenge and from jealousy through defining the word revenge within the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Best/Top:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word best/top to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word best/top in polarity to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word best/top and the word jealousy through defining the word best/top in polarity to the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Judgment:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word judgment to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word judgment within the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word judgment and from jealousy through defining the word judgment within the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Win:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word win to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word win in polarity to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word winand the word jealousy through defining the word win in polarity to the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Lose:



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word lose to the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define the word lose within the word jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the word lose and from jealousy through defining the word lose within the word jealousy in separation of myself.





Re-define the word in the centre-circle of the word-web:



Jealousy is a mind consciousness system design which stems from inferiority, superiority, self-judgment and comparison and it is based on pictures and furthers the enslavement of separation – Jail-Us-In.







The Pictures Work-Sheet



The picture is using a fist to beat a person’s head down onto the electric stove: There is a burning electric stove in the middle. A woman’s head is facing downward on the electric stove with a fist hitting at the back of her head – hitting her head onto the electric stove.



Self-Forgiveness



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate in my mind in the picture of using a fist hitting at the back of a woman’s head to force her head onto the burning electric stove.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing the picture of using a fist hitting at the back of a woman’s head to force her head onto the burning electric stove to exist within and as me.





I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the words jealousy, nastiness, anger, resentment, destroy, abuse, beating down to the picture of hitting at the woman’s head onto the electric stove.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define jealousy, nastiness, anger, resentment, destroy, abuse, beating down within the picture of hitting at the woman’s head onto the electric stove.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from the words jealousy, nastiness, anger, resentment, destroy, abuse, beating down and from the woman within the picture through defining these words within the picture of hitting at the woman’s head onto the electric stove.



I forgive myself for not accepting and allowing myself to realize that I have become the beast of jealousy represented and reflected by this picture within my mind.





I forgive myself for accepting and allowing the thought ‘her contribution is more than me – the boss’ to exist as a trigger point within me, triggering the picture of hitting at the woman’s head onto the electric stove.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the picture of using a fist to hit on the woman’s head onto the electric stove to the thought ‘her contribution is more than me the boss’.





Self-Corrective Statements



I accept and realize that this picture represents the jealousy that exist within and as me of the mind accompanied by nastiness, anger, resentment, desire to destroy and abuse and beating down the being that I am jealous of. I accept and realize that the more I react to the picture the more attention and thus power I am giving it thus giving it permission to possess me. Who I really am is not a picture within my mind and that it is not acceptable to allow myself to be directed and controlled by such a picture in my mind.



I do not accept and allow myself to separate myself from my accepted nature as jealousy, nastiness, anger, resentment, desire to destroy and abuse.



I accept and allow myself to see and investigate what I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become as jealousy, nastiness, anger, resentment, desire to destroy and abuse and beating down reflected in the picture within my mind.



I accept and allow myself to stand up within it and take self-responsibility for what I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become as jealousy, nastiness, anger, resentment, desire to destroy and abuse.



I accept and allow myself to stand up, stop and transform my accepted nature of jealousy, nastiness, anger, resentment, desire to destroy and abuse to live as who I really am as LIFE here in breath.



Re-writing the scripture:



When the picture comes up into my mind again, I stop, I breathe, I bring myself back to the physical and participate something in the physical. If the picture keeps coming up over and over again, I check whether there are points that I am still holding onto which I have not applied self-forgiveness to release myself from. I stand up and take responsibility for what I have accepted and allowed myself to be and become as jealousy, nastiness, anger, resentment, destruction and abuse. I do not allow myself to continue to live such applied nature. I remain here as breath in and as the physical assisting and supporting myself to walk transformation of my accepted nature into LIFE.





The Memories Work-Sheet



My father’s jealousy: Two years ago when I went back home in China from US. I showed my parents a video of me giving a lecture in English on a class which received some cool audience feedback. After seeing that video, my father also attempted to give a ‘lecture’ in front of us. My mother knew why he was doing that since they have been living together for so many years – the reason is that he was comparing with me in the video and was trying to show us that he is also able to do that sort of things – in my mother’s words he has such a strong ‘upward mobility’. Well, it’s basically driven by comparison and competition - even between father and son. This memory is related to the original thought in that now my father is in the role of the ‘boss’ and I am in the role of the ‘subordinate’ in the hierarchy interpretation of the father-son relationship, while the pattern is the same – comparison and competition.





Self-Forgiveness



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hold onto the memory of two years ago when I showed my parents a video of me giving a lecture in English on a class and my father participated in comparison and competition and attempted to prove to us that he is able to do the same by trying to give us a lecture.





I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge my father for his participation in comparison and competition.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from my father through my participation in judgment of my father.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to shift responsibility onto my father instead of realizing that I have become exactly the same as my father within participation in comparison, competition and jealousy.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define myself according to the video of me giving a lecture in English.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the word self-expression to the video of me giving a lecture in English.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to define self-expression within the video of me giving a lecture in English.



I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to separate myself from self-expression through defining self-expression within the lecture video in separation of myself.





I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the memory of me showing my parents a lecture video of me where my father participated in comparison and competition to the thought ‘her contribution is more than me – the boss’.



Self-Corrective Statements:



I accept and realize that judging my father for his participation in comparison, competition and jealousy is me shifting my responsibility to others so that I do not face my accepted and allowed mind pattern of comparison, competition and jealousy.



I do not accept and allow myself to participate in my mind in memories trying to divert my attention from myself to others so that I can shift my responsibility of working with what I have accepted and allowed.



I do not accept and allow myself to divert my attention away from taking self-responsibility through working with the pattern that I have accepted and allowed.



I do not accept and allow myself to use mental projections to escape from facing myself.



I accept and allow myself to take self-responsibility, investigating and working with what I am experiencing and who I am within my experience.





I accept and realize that self-expression is here as who I am in every moment as every breath – not defined by a video where I see myself as being expressive.



I do not accept and allow myself to define my self-expression within a lecture video which I see myself as being expressive.



I do not accept and allow myself to separate myself from self-expression through defining my self-expression within a video.



I accept and allow my self-expression here as who I am in every moment as every breath.





Re-writing the script:



When the thought ‘Her contribution is more than me – the boss(功高盖主)’ comes up, I stop and breathe. I do not accept myself to go into my mind participating in memories – shifting my responsibility to others within memories. I remain here as the breath of life, taking self-responsibility for the point that I am dealing with, and express myself as who I am in the moment as breath.


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